Enjoying solitude is one of the luxuries one enjoys. I wonder if the previous generation could afford this. It has almost become fashionable to glorify not wanting anyone in our life who loves us. People are quite boastful about the fact that they are pretty indifferent to the ones who love them- even if they are family. There is a certain pride they hold in being alone- with no one to care about. I wonder why that is. What sort of a fad is this? Maybe this is some new-age defence mechanism or a fashionable trait which seems so irresistible to fall for.
This hypocrisy has its origins in cynicism, which in turn has its roots in idealism. Why does others' solitude seem so attractive? Is it because you feel your attraction might change it? Is it because we derive a kick out of the fact that someone is sharing thoughts about his/ her solitude with us? What is so attractive about a person who just wants to be left alone? More over, are they this way out of choice or out of sheer tiredness of having to try once again?
Just like we expect too much out of a relationship, there can be inadvertently high suppositions about solitude too. Solitude disappoints us more often than we'd like to admit but letting anyone in on this secret will mean that you aren't happy with your current state and nobody wants to confess that, do they? It is not that people who enjoy being alone are lying. I, in no way, am against their choices, but it is tempting to point out that even when they do get tired of their desolation, they hesitate to acknowledge it. That is what I have an issue with.
Your solitude is your own wilderness, your own world where you and you alone define the rules but all I suggest is- should you ever feel that ought to be changed, should you want a loved one to enter into that world of yours, don't hesitate to speak your mind. Love makes life worthwhile, desolation is just a selfish temptress, an experience to be remembered but not to live your life for!
you nailed it. the thought process IMO stems from a wide array of socio economic changes that have been happening in our lives in the last few decades or so. the great amount of influence of the perception of the west that we have made a part of us has severely hampered our thought process to begin with. Add on the lack of sense of pride and not valuing what we have. the shores seem brighter on the land far away from us, and we seem to have become a living example of it. time to have a re-look at the whole spiraling down of quality of ones life
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